I was watching a video my youngest daughter made and posted today. And I had a realization. People always say to us…” you’re so strong…why do you smile and make it look easy…how with all you have gone through…life is such a struggle…”
No, it is not. That’s it. It is a struggle when you fight it. There are expectations we have in life. So, for me, I thought that I would have the typical large family, house full of grandchildren for the holidays, the family we all see in movies. That was the “expectation.” The reality was so far from that truth, it took me a little while to comprehend it. But I learned to observe, to understand, to learn lessons and face a different life. So here is the equation.
Expectation – observation = frustration. We don’t have to live with this equation. We must put observation first. Meaning, see your life. Observe the actual life you are living. Appreciate what you do have. Be grateful for what you have for today, even if you need change. Understand that sometimes we get off course, for whatever reason, and life takes us in a different direction. That which is meant to be…Observe where you are going, love the journey, love who is with you. We take so much for granted and expect that everything we thought, or everything we thought we wanted to will happen. No usually so.
That’s where we become frustrated and stuck. We are saddened, angry, and hurt. Our expectations were not met. But what happens if you set goals and hopes without a solid expectation, or with observation for where you may need to go next? I don’t mean just live like Mary Poppins and go where the wind takes you (though sometimes I think that’s exactly who I am…) But observe what is working and what is not. That will allow you to be less frustrated because there will be less emotion attached to the expectation. And life will not be such a struggle. Don’t spend your life swimming upstream or caught in a riptide you can’t get out of. It’s all about the perception. When your view, or perception, comes from a place of fear it becomes unmanageable. But when it comes from a place of observance, then you can approach it with a clear mind. You will be able to see a way out. Find a way for change.
GO WITH THE FLOW. You never know where that will take you, but I can promise it will be where you were meant to be.
Has had Hashimoto's for 13 years. I am passionate, I live and breathe, helping you to overcome your struggles with weight, stress, and chronic health issues.